Isn’t it interesting that the one person we have the most control over is the same person we have the least confidence in-–ourselves?

You are responsible for your successes, not your mother or father, brother or sister, boss or co-worker. Only you can control how your future will end up. So give yourself a chance.

If taking control of your life seems like an inconceivable task, then borrow the confidence you need from someone you admire. Act as if you were that person, and pretty soon, people around you will start treating you differently. Along with the great response, you will start becoming that poised person.

When I decided I needed a career change, I had to borrow my confidence from my mentors who were already successful. By imitating them, learning what they did to get to where they are now, I can now share what I have learned with others.

Nothing builds confidence like learning and applying.

We all have a special talent or attribute that no one else has. It is up to us to find our gift and build it so big that it overshadows any shortcomings we may have. For example, I have discovered that I am a better listener than a talker, absorbing conversations like a sponge. By acknowledging that in myself, my self-esteem has risen and now I can speak to anyone.

How many of us, as children, dreamt of being average?

Very few. Who do we blame for invalidating our dreams? Parents, friends, or teachers? We can’t let the opinions of others become our reality. It’s not too late to change our way of thinking. The habits we learned on the way can be easily unlearned.

You must regain the passion for life that you once had as a child. It’s never too late to chase your dreams. I once thought that I was going live out my life in my familiar rut, until a friend said to me, “Give yourself a chance. Be somebody.”

If my friend had confidence in me, why shouldn’t I?

Making a conscious effort to be positive will bring positive action. With that action comes the confidence to stretch as a person. If you are stretching, you are growing. Become addicted to stretching.

The freedom that you will experience is unlike anything that you will experience in your life. Confident people are always growing. It still amazes me how I can attract, meet, and talk with Presidents and CEOs of major corporations. A few years ago, I would never have had the nerve to do such a thing. But I’ve learned that we are all the same. We all have the same fears. It’s just that some of us have fear but don’t let it have us.

The most dangerous thing you can do is stop growing. Keep reaching for the sky, because it is still the limit.

You can’t get out of life alive. Life was meant to be enjoyed. Live it to your fullest.

God Bless and have a great adventure.

Thanks to Tony Rodriguez for sharing his insights with us.

If you apply just some of the ideas he has discussed, your life will improve, no matter how good it is right now.

Let me comment and expand on his first sentence: “Isn’t it interesting that the one person we have the most control over is the same person we have the least confidence in--ourselves?”

Right now it might be hard for you to believe you actually have full control over yourself and your circumstances when the defining events, which have either happened or are still occurring, indicate otherwise.

The important thing to keep in mind is that if you don’t believe you have the powers to create your own condition, then you’ll think you have no control over the events that are taking place. And so you won’t do anything to improve your situation.

When you believe you don’t have control over yourself, then you become a puppet that can be manipulated by other people or events.

Because most people have this destructive belief, they usually complain that life isn’t fair instead of figuring out ways to change the circumstances of their lives.

Sadly, these people often come to the end of their lives and find out that they’ve lived only a tiny fraction of it. And this realization generates a lot of frustration, pain, and regret.

The good news is, there are also people who do whatever it takes to change their setbacks into opportunities. In spite of unfortunate circumstances, they still believe that they don’t have to settle for mediocrity and accept the outcomes they’ve been given.

You might recognize the name Bruce Lee. He was the legendary martial artist and movie star who is still known and respected by millions of people around the world, even more than three decades after his death.

Most people would look at Bruce Lee and say that he was very gifted and lucky. Yet they don’t realize he had to overcome insurmountable obstacles to achieve his incredible successes.

This was possible only because he didn’t allow his circumstances to control his life. Instead of complaining and blaming when one bad event after another kept on happening to him, he focused on his goals and dreams every day. He adopted the belief that everything happened for a reason and purpose and that it served him, and he took actions to change his circumstances.

One of the statements he affirmed to himself regularly was:

And he did -– big time!

Today, more than 32 years after his death, millions of fans around the world still watch his movies and read his books and wonder how he was able to achieve such an extraordinary level of mastery.

What were his secrets?

Well, he worked like crazy to develop and perfect his skills. He persevered through one obstacle after another, determined to become the best person he could be each day. Best of all, he never accepted his circumstances as reality.

My friend, if you were to do the same, you’d make your life a masterpiece, too.

Go for it! Aim high and reach your star. You deserve it. After all, as Og Mandino suggested:

The point I’m trying to make is that you need to examine your current events and circumstances. If they aren’t what you want, realize that you have the powers to change them for the better by taking new actions today.

While it may require many weeks, months, or even years to manifest the results you desire, as long you believe you have control over yourself, over your circumstances, and over your life, you’ll eventually be able to create the future of your dreams.

Like anything else, I know it’s easier said than done. It will take time for you to reprogram your belief system and to accept the fact that everything–-whether good or bad–-happens for a purpose and a reason, and it will serve you.

Haven’t you ever reflected back on an event that you absolutely hated it at the time? But once you realized why it had happened, you were actually grateful that it did?

Such a situation has happened to me many times.

Okay. If you haven’t adopted the belief that you’re in control of your life and that everything happens for a reason and purpose and it serves you, I encourage you to do so right away.

As simple as this may seem, when you accept these empowering beliefs, your life will become more enjoyable and rewarding, almost overnight.

My best to you,

Larry Lee

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